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Cake day: July 10th, 2023

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  • As an Apple and Linux user, all the people I know that will"throw money" at new apple hardware have enough to not care. They’re not power users, they just want something simple and reliable, and apple hardware checks those boxes. The actual apple fans I know are buying refurb, using oclp to keep old machines going longer, or just wait until there’s some form of price drop.

    I think it’s also worth noting to this person that the apple tv hardware costs LESS than a shield tv. But that head is likely so firmly rooted in their own ass that it’d take an auger to remove it.









  • If you’d legitimately like to understand, you should research things like clinical depression and anxiety disorders. Not everyone has a “normal” brain chemistry. If you genuinely want to understand, try to step outside of your perspective when doing so and try to put yourself in the shoes of someone afflicted with any of these conditions as you look into them.

    These disorders can literally prevent someone from seeing many, if not all positive aspects in their life. Everything is quickly or immediately painted in a troubling or worrisome manner. It’s a fucking hellscape to trudge through on a day to day basis and there’s no magical fix for any of it. There are things that can help mitigate and cope but there’s nothing that purely removes these afflictions. A big one is empathy from people who care about that person and genuinely want them to know they do care about how that person feels.

    Asking someone with one of these afflictions why they can’t “just be happy” is not unlike asking a quadriplegic why they can’t go for a swim.

    I know I didn’t wish to go through every day hating the world, myself, and feeling anxious about every unknown. I want to feel free to feel unabashedly comfortable in my own skin and enjoy every moment of my waking life, but my brain is literally not wired to be able to do that with any reliable consistency. The best I, and many others, can do is just try to temper and negate those invasive thoughts and emotions as best we can when we can. How often that can happen is dependent on several factors and is not the same for everyone. I may be able to cope with X when someone else can’t, and not be able cope with Y while another person can.

    Your friends may very well be going through similar things, and I know you didn’t say you do, but if you are confronting them with your lack of understanding and questions like “why can’t you just be happy/enjoy life?” you could be amplifying their pain and further alienating them when they likely already wake up feeling that way without any outside provocation.