mar_k [he/him]

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Cake day: February 19th, 2023

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  • going off a bit of a tangent: my mom’s a former nursing assistant who went into debt studying to become an LP-nurse when i was in middle school. as an assistant nurse, she developed arithitis from lifting patients with mobility issues every workday, yet she hasn’t been able to afford a doctor’s appointment in years (or eye care, or dental care). by the book, 2 workers should be lifting patients with proper technique, yet that’s rarely the case due to intentional under-staffing and time constraints.

    she usually worked in nursing homes; dressing people, hand feeding them, showering/bathing them, cleaning their excrement, etc. nursing assistants spend the most amount of time with patients, so she made a ton of meaningful connections with them over the years. a lot of patients would (and still do) tell her how they can’t afford treatment or surgery themselves. after a patient passed (some of whom she’d be grieving over), she and a coworker were usually in charge of cleaning their stiffening bodies and lifting them into bags to be sent to the morgue.

    assistant nursing (along with regular nursing to an extent) is one of the most dangerous jobs in the US by far, with up to 60% of facing an injury per year (most commonly back injuries). figuratively and literally the backbone of the healthcare industry who work for barely above minimum wage with little direction or support. if anyone has the most reason to [REDACTED] and [REDACTED], it’s them









  • My high school sex ed never taught anything gay or anal. So I knew to wear a condom with my first girlfriend, but until I was a freshman in college (a year ago…) I didn’t realize it’s important to wear one with a guy too. First gay experience, we’d been seeing each other for a month and I thought I was pretty ready, sock on the dorm door and everything, but then bro asked me if I had a condom and I was like “huh?” And obviously I didn’t so he just gave me head instead

    For whatever reason I thought condoms only helped in vaginal sex, since that’s the only thing they taught its use for. Didn’t really know how gay and bi men prevent STIs other than monogamy and a few other assumptions. Part of that stupidity was probably just me being optimistic and horny brained about not having to wear anything