So my mom asked if I was gay, I told her I’m only attracted to women. She kept trying to figure out what was up (she was nosy and I was trying to leave a coming out letter so I was acting sus af). Anyways eventually she said “well I know you aren’t trans” and I said “about that…” and came out. Lots of crying on both our parts later she was incredibly supportive, but I wasn’t worried as she had already been a vocal trans ally.
My father on the other hand attempted to talk me out of it then hasn’t really spoken to me since. That includes years of living together. Which, points for stubbornness I suppose.
Those articles hit close to home as someone hard of hearing. So much of disability activism is trying to get able people to respect what is comfortable for us to do rather than what is comfortable for able bystanders to see us do.
Like assistive devices are awesome, but they exist for the people they are used by. We consistently want comfortable independent function without being othered for it. Some will prefer subtle devices, others will ask for a fully controllable rgb option on devices that could be hidden easily.