The first thing seen at the top of WhatsApp now is an AI query bar. Who the fuck needs anything related to AI on WhatsApp?

It’s obvious to me. I get that it’s not obvious to her 😂

Oh she does it constantly with everyone 😂 she is aware, and is striving to do it less, but yeah, it’s all confidence.

She loves baking, for example, and is really good at it, but will apologise profusely for how bad they are before anyone has even tasted them. Perfectionism is absolutely a part of it, and I think that’s been imposed on her by her mum who is also a perfectionist and expects everyone else to be a perfectionist.

But yeah, were figuring it out 😊

I do experience a bit of the paradox of impatience:

“Sorry”

“Don’t be sorry”

“Are you angry?”

“I’m not angry”

“Did I do something wrong?”

"NO YOU DIDN’T DO ANYTHING WRONG FFS!!* 😂

Yeah, I know the struggle 😂

We’ve both been working on ourselves emotionally for a long time, so we spend a lot of time and energy trying to explore why we feel certain ways about different things, and then working together to try and help each other get to where we want to be.

I obviously have behaviours which I don’t like about myself which I’m working on, and she also has behaviours which she’s trying to work on. This is one of those areas where we’re trying to figure out together “how much apologising is too much?” as a general curiosity, rather than it being an actual problem.

Neither of us feel like we apologise enough, but I don’t get called out on how much I apologise, but she does. A lot of our friends and family often tell her she doesn’t need to apologise, or that she apologises too much! 😂

I understand why I don’t want her to do it, and it’s for many of the reasons you stated: perfectionism, people-pleasing, high social standards, fear of disappointment, etc. all of which can lead to her feeling sad, anxious, and over thinking every tiny detail which obviously isn’t good for mental health.

But to try and figure out how I physically and emotionally feel when I hear her say “sorry” is tricky. Do I get frustrated? Do I feel pity? Am I annoyed? Am I annoyed at her? (Obviously I’m not, but she often assumes I am)

I guess we’re just finding it interesting to work through that childish curiosity of answering the question “…but why?” from a perspective which isn’t as often looked through.

And thank you for the response! ❤️

Fuck that noise. When Hitler comes knocking, you shoot first.

My completely uneducated guess would say that this is the language of a country who know a few things about a Molotov Cocktail!

The closest word in my mental vocabulary which comes close to “Suomessa” is Suomi which is Finnish for Finland

Tiedämme? They tied a dam?

Muutamia has to do with a mutiny!

Asioita, I have no clue.

Then they reference the infamous Flaming Sambucca!

So Finland once staged a mutiny with fiery alcohol and a dam!

Maybe bean (I forget how to tag people in Lemmy posts) can tell me how close I was.

Well he certainly got at least one of those fraudsters!

Whatever you say you fucking dumbass 👍

Which very quickly started to add the occasional banner and constantly push nitro. It fucking sucks.

Is there a defederated version which doesn’t constantly drop quality and connection like discord does?

Elon is prefnart!??!

This is my take on it. That unexpected spike in the salary is slightly skewed stats from the billionaires with all the money and none of the knowledge.

Then it goes back down to nearly 0 where most of our average wages actually are.

Source: My source is that I made it the fuck up, but it’s certainly what it feels like when you see the clueless assholes with money and power.

Tik Tok staff working from home on their break:

The fact you’re on lemmy puts you in good company I believe. I, too, am fighting the chromium curse.

Saw a meme the other day saying the Titanic sank and the Titan sank: beware the Tit

I don’t want to simply repeat what others have said, but on a personal level, I’m actually enjoying the smaller overall community - it makes it a bit more personal, I feel. I enjoy that. Yeah, fair enough, it’s not great for niches, but you don’t have to be tethered down to one place for your content.

Back in my day, you had to go to completely different websites for your niche content! Forums were the mainstream!

I, too, feel more human here fellow human 💪

As an overweight 35 year old who wore skinny jeans: I feel this.

I think you’re being optimistic about the number of people who both use adblockers and who care enough to switch browsers.

Not to mention the vast reserves known to be in Antarctica.

That treaty is only going to last so long before people start getting desperate and start fighting over it.