• TerranFenrir@lemmy.ca
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    8 hours ago

    Apologies mate didn’t click about it being men only, let me know if you want replies from women.

    Oh noooooo your inputs are still very helpful, don’t worry. I still appreciate you replying haha.

    I just had a slight preference for men and their dads because I figured I could relate to it better. I’ve seen dads generally being nice with their daughters, but absolute assholes to their sons (at least growing up in India). I figured that the perspectives would thus be different, that’s all.

    I’m sorry you didnt get the dad all children deserve.

    Thank you. At least the good part is that I don’t know how much I have missed (if I have at all). I’ve never really seen a “good dad” closely I suppose.

    Have you found !dadforaminute@lemmy.world People post when they need dad style advice or a hug.

    I have, but I think my childhood still haunts me here. My hatred for older men with authority prevents me from going even close to this, or even being remotely comfortable with the idea of a “dad”. It may be illogical or nonsensical, but hey… ig I need therapy for this lol ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

    • LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zoneOP
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      8 hours ago

      Thanks mate I re edited my comment to put it all back incase it’s helpful. And absolutely, gender can make a big difference to how a child is treated. It is kinda good that you don’t know what you’ve missed. I get what you mean about childhood still haunting you, it’s really hard to unlearn things we learned back then. Therapy can really help, it can change how we think… it’s about self development not things being wrong with us